Parshat Chaye Sara — Genesis 23:1- 25:18

Efrat, Israel – “Sarah died in Kiryat Arba, which is Hebron in the Land of Canaan. And Abraham came to eulogize Sarah and to weep over her.” (Genesis 23:2) 

What was Sarah doing in Hebron? According to a simple reading of the text, Abraham, Sarah and Isaac lived in Beersheba. The text even tells us that Abraham had to “come” to weep over her; he apparently wasn’t with her when she died.

In order to understand Sarah’s whereabouts, it is first necessary to realize that her prophetic powers were greater than Abraham’s. You will remember that when Sarah tells Abraham to banish the handmaiden and her son, the issue was “very grievous in the eyes of Abraham,” but God says to the patriarch: “Let it not be grievous in your eyes. Whatever Sarah says to you, listen to her voice.” (Genesis 21:10-12). Rashi cites the Midrash Raba, “We learn from here that Abraham was second to Sarah in prophetic power.”

The truth of the words of the Midrash are borne out by the subsequent text. Abraham, being 10 years older than Sarah, was 137 when Sarah died; he lived another 38 years — years when he was still vigorous enough to marry at least one other wife and father six sons (Genesis 25:1-6). Nevertheless, there is not one biblically transmitted conversation between God and Abraham during all these years. Indeed, the only recorded event is Abraham’s desire to choose a wife for Isaac, but in the absence of Sarah he leaves the choice to Eliezer, his Damascene steward. Apparently, in no small measure Abraham was the rav (rabbi) because Sarah was the rebbitzen (rabbi’s wife).

From this backdrop, let us take a fresh look at the drama surrounding the akeda. Abraham rises “early in the morning” to set out with Isaac, the two house-lads (Eliezer and Ishmael as previously mentioned), firewood, a slaughtering knife and a minimum of 10 days’ supply of food and drink. It is inconceivable that they all left without waking Sarah. A discussion certainly ensued. “Where are you going?” asks Sarah. “To do God’s bidding,” answers Abraham. “What did God ask you to do?” asks Sarah. “To make a sacrifice,” answers Abraham. “So why do you need our son, Isaac?” asks Sarah, “and where is the lamb?” she demands, with a nearly hysterical tremor in her voice.

And so Abraham repeats God’s precise command: “Take now your son, your only son whom you love, Isaac, and bring him up there as a dedication [ola] on one of the mountains which I shall point out to you” (Genesis 22:2). Sarah is beside herself. “You don’t need the slaughtering knife,” she cries. “You are misinterpreting God’s words. The Almighty God, who taught us that ‘one who sheds innocent blood shall have his blood spilled, since the human being was created in the Divine image,’ told Cain that ‘his brother’s blood is crying out from beneath the ground,’ could not possibly have meant for you to slaughter our innocent Isaac. And besides, God promised you, in my presence, that ‘through Isaac shall be designated your special seed.’ I tell you that you are misinterpreting God’s command.”

Abraham refuses to listen. After all, he heard God’s words, and ola — although built upon a verb which means to ascend and dedicate — in actual practice means “a whole burnt offering.” Abraham has no choice but to leave the house with Isaac, the firewood and the slaughtering knife – hearing Sarah’s muffled sobs as he closes the door.

In fact, Sarah was correct. Yes, God purposely conveyed an ambiguous command because our Bible is an eternal document, and subsequent generations of Jews — subject to exile, persecution and pogrom — would be forced to see their children slaughtered on account of their faith; these future fathers and children would find inspiration in the figures of Abraham and Isaac as symbols of devotion unto death, as ensigns of Jewish willingness to make the ultimate sacrifice for God, Torah and Israel. But such martyrdom is not the ab initio desire of our compassionate God.

The sages of the Talmud (B.T. Ta’anit 4a) corroborate the thrust of the words I put in Sarah’s mouth; they interpret a verse in the book of Jeremiah (19:5) regarding human sacrifice: “’I did not command them, I did not speak of them, they did not enter My mind.’”

It is on this basis that Rashi comments on the word “And lift him up” (Genesis 22:2): “[God] did not say ‘slaughter him’ because the Holy One, blessed be He, did not want Isaac slaughtered; He merely said ‘lift him up,’ on the mountain to make of him a dedication, and once he [Isaac] agreed to be dedicated [in life], He [God] said he was to be brought down” (Bereshit Raba 56, 8). And indeed Isaac is referred to in the Midrash as a “pure dedication — ola temima” for the rest of his life.

If I may continue my fanciful “midrash,” I would suggest that once Sarah realized that she couldn’t convince her husband, her only recourse was to attempt to convince the Almighty to step in and prevent a tragedy. She leaves her home in Beersheba and goes to pray in Hebron, at the Cave of the Couples (Tomb of the Patriarchs, known in Hebrew as Ma’arat Hamachpela) where Adam and Eve were buried. It was important for her to pray in Hebron, because that was the place of the “Covenant between the Pieces” when God promised Abraham eternal progeny, and that was where God had sent his messengers to tell Abraham that he and she would miraculously have a son “through whom his special seed would be designated.”

Sarah prayed until her heart gave out. She died in Hebron, and Abraham came there to bury, eulogize and weep over his beloved wife, without whom he understood that his life with God was over, but through whom the destiny of Israel had been secured forever. 

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Shlomo Riskin

Founder & Rosh Yeshiva, 

Ohr Torah Stone

Founding Rabbi of Efrat