Courtesy of the Mayerson JCC. Photo credit: Susan Bradley-Meyer
Submitted by the Mayerson JCC
Elaine Trabout’s journey from Cincinnati to Washington state and back again is a story of resilience and finding community when it’s needed most. Born and raised in Cincinnati, Elaine left at age 29 to build her family and career. She had an illustrious career teaching at a Jewish day school in a preschool classroom. After spending years in Washington, she returned to her hometown two years ago to care for her 94-year-old mother, while her husband and children remain at their home.
While Elaine has a deep love for her mother, the transition wasn’t easy. “At first, I felt very lonely. I missed my family at home, and providing full time care for my mom’s basic needs was isolating,” Elaine reflects. With the responsibility of cooking every meal, the daily grind was exhausting. Her mother was insistent on certain food preferences, requesting the same food day in and day out. Often, Elaine would step out of the house to pick up food for herself, only to return and eat alone. The weight of these responsibilities took a toll, and Elaine longed for community.
That’s when a family member suggested the Mayerson JCC’s To-Go Meal service — a simple, yet transformative solution. The convenience of the meals through the 60 & Better Center gave Elaine a much-needed break from the stress of meal planning and, perhaps most importantly, allowed her to get out of the house. “It made my life easier,” she shares, adding that her mother especially loves the cake, while Elaine loves the different chicken offerings and the delectable cheese blintzes.
The impact of the To-Go Meals spans beyond food. Elaine began to get involved in other programs offered at the 60 & Better Center. She discovered a vibrant social and recreational space where she could be herself and thrive. She participates in classes that align with her schedule, including Line Dancing. Elaine used to dance when she was younger and was excited to rekindle her passion for movement. “It’s empowering to dance to great music — it’s the perfect exercise, blending fun and effort in the best way.” The joy she finds in dancing is palpable. “Last week, we danced eight routines. It was challenging, but I felt a real sense of accomplishment. Every time my feet hit the floor, I felt truly alive.”
Elaine recently participated in the New Year’s Line Dancing Luncheon. “I danced for an hour with seven other people, and then it was time for class. For the final dance, I needed to use a chair.” She adds, “The teacher, another woman, and I ended up dancing for a total of two straight hours.” When tricky movements require modifications, the class welcomes participants to show up as they are each day, allowing them to use accommodations which enable them to fully engage in the session.
The joy of dancing to great music and meeting new people revitalized her, and Elaine even made lasting friendships. It’s this sense of connection and camaraderie that has truly transformed Elaine’s experience. The line dancing class, which is growing in size and energy, has become a highlight of her week. “I love the class — it’s a true community. I’ve made some incredible friends,” she says. “These friends are encouraging me to join the beginner tap class next!” she adds, clearly excited about the new possibilities ahead.
These friendships extended outside of the JCC, with Elaine often hosting or attending Shabbat dinners at her friends’ homes — sometimes even bringing along her rescue dog. “They love animals, so it’s a perfect fit,” she smiles.
Elaine’s involvement at the JCC doesn’t stop there. She also volunteers at Mishpacha (Family) & Friends, a collaboration between the 60 & Better Center and the Early Childhood School. She reads to the students in the Willows classroom once a month and engages them with Jewish-themed books, activities, and games. One memorable experience was when she led a hands-on Hanukkah activity where the children learned how to be dreidels with their bodies, creating a lively and interactive lesson. “I think of the kids as honorary grandchildren,” Elaine says fondly. She values the relationships built with the children and enjoys providing them with a meaningful Jewish education.
Her volunteer work at ECS has also been an avenue for her to continue making a difference. Elaine takes great pride in creating a space for the kids to grow and learn, both about their Jewish heritage and the world around them. “The whole group is incredibly endearing,” she notes with affection.
Through her involvement in the 60 & Better programs, Elaine has found more than just a place to stay active or have a meal. She’s found a vibrant community — a place where she can engage with others, create lasting friendships, and enrich her own life and the lives of those around her.
“I’m so grateful for the community that the JCC provides,” she says, reflecting on her journey. “I can’t imagine being anywhere else. It’s a place where I feel supported, encouraged, and truly at home.”
